A few years back, when I was married and not yet at the separation stage, we had a neighbor who would come over and hang out occasionally on our driveway with us.
She would occasionally talk about several of the neighbor men and how they were openly flirting with her. How it made her uncomfortable and whatnot.
My now ex, would get butt hurt afterwards because he wasn’t in the mix of neighborhood married men flirting with her. I’d chuckle and tell him he just wasn’t her type. I was wrong… It wasn’t that he wasn’t her type, it was the other way around.
Throughout my marriage, I would constantly hear about all these younger women, just about throwing themselves at him. If you talked to my ex, it just about sounded like he was getting between 4-8 phone numbers a day from women.
Once the divorce happened, and he started openly dating (instead of dating behind my back while we were married), I noticed a pattern.
With the exception of a small few (I’m talking maybe 2), every woman he was talking to on the various dating sites were all younger than me. I am nine years younger than him, and I think the average age of the women he was dating were around 12+ years younger than he is.
He is now engaged, and his fiancé is 26 years younger than him.
Half his age, plus a year. He is 50. She is 24. Our oldest child is 20…
So it wasn’t a matter of him not being the neighbors type, it was a matter of her not being young enough.